Thursday, March 24, 2011

Being a Good Friend to Yourself

I just added a "Friend me on Facebook" button over there on the sidebar. Clicking it takes you right to a friend request sent to me.

I clicked it myself to be sure of the functionality, since it's a bit more complicated than an html button with a link to my profile would be.  It gave me this message:

You cannot be friends with yourself.

And a lot of emotions washed over me. First, embarrassment, like facebook was looking down on me. Why is it in all caps?  Why is it bold? Why isn't it phrased neutrally? I watched that movie. I know that guy is kind of a jerk.

Then I felt sorrow. I don't know what kind of world this is where I can't be my own friend. I think that you have to be friends with yourself before anyone else can truly be your friend. So that landed me at anger.

This world is hard enough. And writers face so much rejection every day. We have to believe in ourselves. We have to love ourselves.

I don't care what you say Facebook.  I don't care what your little system recognizes. I'm friends with myself, and I'm proud of it. 

And to my readers, don't let Zuckerberg shame you. He might have trouble looking himself in the face in the mirror in the morning, but you all deserve to be your own friend.


  1. LOL ya, FB why can't I be my own friend. It's a free country isn't it, I should be able to be friends with whom ever I'd like, even myself. I completely agree...I'm going to go click and be your friend now.

  2. BWAHAHAHA! Now I don't feel like such a dork. ;-) Blogger lets me be my own friend. Suck it Facebook!